RELATIONSHIPS

FREEDOM & ACCEPTANCE IN RELATIONSHIPS

“Freedom is the body of perfect relationship & acceptance is the soul of a perfect relationship.”

This single line , I have read it in a book in which this dialogue had came from God Shri Krishna. I browsed this line over and over again and again into my mind and relate this with my own personal relationship issues. Its a very very powerful thought.

A perfect relationship whether it is of mother son or husband wife or father daughter or friends or lovers or any other relation of the society, They leads misery and tension just due to the lack of freedom.

A very true and harsh reality is this “No single person on this earth loves you for your sake.” Everyone do this for their sake and similarly we also make relationship like that. Everyone is selfish including you. If the person is behaving exactly in a certain way like you wanted him to do , then only that person would be good for you else there would be anger . 

Anger will take place initially in your heart as your expectations were not fulfilled and then Anger will take place in his/her heart as their freedom is restricted.

Our basic nature is free. If we really start loving people in the certain way where we allow them to live freely as they want , accept them as they are , Every single person would be happy. We are sad, angry only because of expectations . Sometimes we don’t fulfill other’s expectations and sometimes others ( our loved ones ) don’t fulfill our expectations. How difficult is to accept others as the way they are. Right?

 Trust me.... Its very easy. I have changed a lot now. I was an introvert. Yes , I think too much when it comes to people who were in my family as i loved them from heart not from mind and when they hurted me or i should say they reacted in a certain way i automatically hurted myself. But in reality they were just playing their roles , Behaving in a certain way. They were not wrong. Similarly there may be people in your life also who sometimes behaves like that you didn’t like and you get hurt. 

Then try this simple Sadhana – “ Sit alone for half an hour at a peaceful and in beautiful aroma place. Just think like that every people is very innocent . They are incomplete just trying to complete themselves by getting something. For few people just arguing with others and then winning that argument means much more for their lives. They feel superior in that way. They don’t even think about others emotions. Just think how idiot or childish they are.

Some people try to control others. They are of controlling nature right.But let me introduce to a fact that each and every human being has this in his basic nature that he/she wants to control others. Every soul is unhappy and incomplete so they thinks that either by controlling other people behaving them in a certain way we like so. They think it will make them happy or complete. But irony is “This is not the correct way or being happy".

Correct way is  “ Freedom and Acceptance”.

Yes, Let your family friends lover be Free in their own lives. Dont be so incomplete that you need someone else to complete you. You are complete. Yes. Human body is the complete and best machine on this earth as it contains the creation and creator within it.

We are complete. Just leave everyone in their own life . In this way you will love them in more pure manner. Remember every person every soul is alone from thousands of years and after death not even a single soul will come with you. You have a limited time here. Just enjoy it by caring others , by loving others , by being a pure human being . Give freedom to others and accept them as the way they are. You can suggest if they are doing something nasty. But don’t judge them or hate them. Every person is innocent from inside. Even our parents who scolds us sometimes, They also are so scared of something that they get angry on our certain actions. Its simple. No one is bad , We all are same .

Just be free and let others free. Dont control others. Respect the value of freedom . Value it. Dont do certain actions which are wrong ethically wrong. It is not freedom. Freedom means just free yourself from caste system , free yourself from abusive language , anger , free yourself from predefined mental patterns which were preset belief system of your. Freedom means being a pure soul without any bondage.

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